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They certainly can.

However, many people act as though women are incapable of being the abuser in a relationship, only being able to be the victim.

Now, I'm not making fun at women who are in abusive relationships, I'm simply saying that sometimes it can be around the other way, with the woman abusing the man.

But, of course, if a man is getting abused he isn't suppose to say or do anything, since that isn't manly. :roll:

I remember while driving to uni one day the two hosts on the radio were talking about a recent squabble of domestic violence that occurred. A man called the police after his girlfriend repeatedly punched and kicked him and threw objects at him. However, here's the hilarious thing; when the cops arrive, what do they do? They immediately grab the guy, put him in handcuffs and haul him outside. :|

Since he was male, OBVIOUSLY he was the abuser, OBVIOUSLY the chick was the victim.
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They can also abuse their own children; that isn't an exclusively male feature. Females are just as capable of beating and mentally breaking their own kids.
Sometimes the mother is far worse then the father, yet because the mother is female, she is obviously the better parent all the time. :roll:

Also, I hate it how they have 'days'. In New Zealand there was a nation 'Stop violence against women day,' which was for domestic abuse. Soooo, men can't be the subject of violence, then?


Women can hit men as well, it's not exclusive to one gender.


lol typo.
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Yokai-no-Red Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2015   General Artist
Great stamp, also, some people continue to denying that women are also able to do that, and i'm also tired with the same "men are the devil, women are the victim" when the opposite could happen :facepalm:
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what-the-honk Featured By Owner Apr 6, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
water is wet
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ImdaBatman Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Just watch "Everybody Loves Raymond"
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Ask--Frightspark Featured By Owner Oct 3, 2014
((Yay, feminism... :I))
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GothicCrisps Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
This is true, the same can be said of other violent actions and crimes. None of them are really gender specific and we really need to stop acting as though they are.
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MissMuffinTop Featured By Owner Jun 6, 2014   Writer
Well no shit. 

That's not an excuse for violent men, though. 
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Ninten2401 Featured By Owner Apr 26, 2014
So very true... I've seen many a question on help websites, asking how the man in a relationships can make the cops see that the woman is the abusive one in the relationship... Many can never get help because of this, and are forced to get a divorce and deal with that giant headache, or spend the rest of their lives in an abusive relationship.
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Lipizzaner-Kgirl Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2014  Student General Artist
Women tend to go for the more subtle, creepy ways. Most would rather go behind your back while a guy would rather fight up front. But there are always exceptions to every rule.
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SNZMano Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2013
Amen to that 100 % !
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GingaFreak11 Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2013  Student Writer
I do not have video/photo proof so you'll have to take my word (and I might try to draw some of the beatings, but it won't be the same as a real photo), because the person that has been abused by his girlfriend is ashamed of himself (he's very clingy so he believe everything she says) and claims, "I deserved it." Or, "it's my fault"... Etc.. Etc...

(I respect he doesn't want to have his photo taken or recorded, so I won't pester him about it, even though I want to see his girlfriend in prison.)

Anyways, this abuse has been life term for poor Roy. I'll start with the beginning:

(Some of this seems like it doesn't have anything to deal with this, but I'm just going to tell his whole story)
Roy's father had been cheating on his "step-ma" and one of the women decided to leave Roy and their doorstep.

Now, his step-ma wasn't upset with her husband, but because of Roy. Nothing he did was ever right in the old hag's eyes (sorry to be immature, but I hate the woman, and cancer was too good of a death for her). Same with his father. No, No, their daughter, Chelsea was perfect, but not Roy.

Both of his parents would beat him. Before I get further, I'll share the details (yes, I'm still on child abuse, but I'll get to the woman on male abuse once I'm done clearing up what his step-mom did.)

Once Roy was able to speak, he'd always cry about his fear of the dark (and being alone). His stepmom would push him into the basement (which had broken glass all over the place and rats, all that unhealthy stuff) in the dark and lock him there and pretend she couldn't hear him screaming and crying (in facts she would laugh) . She would do this everyday to him and everytime it got more and more scarier than the last to Roy. (I might've not told this in detail, by push, I mean toss down. He would roll down the stairs, head first and even now he still feels left over pain from it.)

(I'm skipping around in no order, just of memory of what he's told me. I am also leaving out the abuse that his father did because his father wasn't the one who broke his heart and made Him think he's worthless.)

When Roy turned 7, his step-ma realized he was still in diapers (because nobody took the time to potty train him), this made her pissed. She would shove his face into his diaper every time he didn't use the toilet and make him drink a glass of her pee until he puked. Eventually, he did learn to use the toilet, but this was no way to teach your child how to go to the bathroom (and one of the only ways Roy could express himself was to pee himself, so yeah... She didn't take that well.) it's just cruel.

Not too long ago (Roy's 19 now), his step-me had ran out of stripper money (I'm not kidding, she was really a stripper, she just spent her money on smoking), and she moved in with Roy and Chelsea (Since Roy never went to school, he could get a job so his sister let him and Sarah (his step-ma later had another child with someone) live with her. Well Guess who dug her cigarette buds into Roy's arms, face and body... If you guessed Chelsea, you're a moron! His own "motherly figure", the one with the vaginia (which femnazis claim makes you the better parent), burned him. She would publicly (in front of her stripper friends) hurt him and they'd all laugh. She would call him worthless and make him feel like trash, in fact... She treated her trash better than her own son!!!
Eventually she left, (and because Roy only wants to prove to her that he's a good son and he longs to be loved, he was sad [he's clingy]) and not even three weeks after, she got cancer (the doctors called two days before Roy's birthday [i thought his step-mom was trying to make a nasty joke, but she did have cancer]). Now, I don't know the details, Roy for some odd reason, was very upset when she died. Her last words, which I am not making up were, "Dumbass."

(Let's go back in time a little, sorry I'm doing this by memory)

When Roy was 16, he got his first girlfriend, an overly nasty woman named Lauren. Now, you don't need to have researched his past to know he's weak and fragile (I'm not saying its a bad thing, but Roy also had trouble speaking English [his real mother, which he had no idea was his real mother (who knew he was being abused and could care less), taught him how to read and speak in Russian and Chelsea taught him to speak conversational English.] and that made him a greater target.) Lauren also made him feel worthless and tricked him into buying her all sorts of things. (She didn't abuse him, but it's still wrong [the first time they dated at least.] to do that.) She would verbally abused him with nasty words and claim that he didn't love her enough. At the same time, because Roy wasn't interested in sex (he wants to feel loved, he didn't want to have sex and his father did sexual things to him as a child so he was scared of sex), she was sleeping around with someone else (Adre). She broke up with Roy just to date Adre, not caring about his feelings and asked Roy, "Do you seriously think I'd ever love someone as ugly as you? Just listen to the way you speak, can you do anything right?" (She said more, but I don't really remember it all.)

Two weeks later Adre had gotten Lauren pregnant and left her. Lauren quickly went back to Roy to trick him out of his money. Well, "because of the mood swings" (IT'S NOT THE MOOD SWINGS, SHE'S JUST A HORRIBLE PERSON!!!), she would get very angry when Roy said something stupid (he's never been to school, stupidity is his charm. And it's actually kind of cute how confused he is), she would beat him. The first beaten was "just a scratch". The next she threw a knife (she was great at knife throwing so she never missed) at his shoulder and one at his foot. He claim both as "accidents". Then she bit him life a dog. The next she set him on fire. All the abuse became a cycle until she met Adrian. She left Roy (Who always wanted a child, even if it wasn't his.) to let Adrian be the father and for Roy to bail his eyes out (Roy only has too ways of expressing himself, peeing and crying.).

RIGHT NOW... Well sorta.. These are stories of his current "girlfriend" (she's dating some else and just bullying Roy):
(THIS IS ONE OF THE WORST OF THE WORST... JUST A HEADS UP!)

Ah, months ago, I made a mistake... Roy and I were taking a walk like we always do and he said he found a girl across the street cute. Like an idiot, I pressured him into asking her out (I didn't even talk to her first, I just let Roy ask her on his own.), she accepted.
Ah, Molly.. Where do I get started on this smut excuse of a human being (you will learn that I HATE HATE HATE Molly...); She was not bad at first, in fact she even fooled me into thinking she was a good person. It wasn't long before I learned about her other boyfriend Richard (who was a jerk..). They would make out right in front of Roy and he would pretend that it was alright (it was breaking his heart, but because Molly was a feminist, she claimed that it would be "sextist" to make her date Roy and only Roy.). Dick and Molly would point out his flaws IN PUBLIC... She would reject all his kisses and don't get me started on how violent this woman is...
(Roy is very feminine, it's not his fault [hes not gay], he just has interests stereotypically, only women like) So Molly loved Roy's cooking (that's the only thing that son of a female dog loved about him.). But once Roy burnt brownies... By a tiny bit, how did she react? She smacked him with the tray (WHICH IS MADE OF METAL!!!!) several times until he didn't get up and purposely stomped on his groin (it's not funny! Every time I tell this to somebody they laugh.) She then just left while taking some things that meant a lot to Roy (she took a teddy bear that his stepmom gave him [it was the only thing his step ma every gave to him] and it made him feel like he wasn't sleeping alone [hes mentally a child] and now he's been having so many nightmares [which I'll get into later]).
Roy once tripped while in her house and broke a vase (well, I don't know what he accidentally broke, but it was glass and didn't really matter all that much, so lets claim it was a vase). He told her that he'd fix it, good as new but she didn't care, she grabbed one of the glass shards and dug it into his arm and then kicked him in the face. No matter how many times he said he was sorry, she would stab him with the glass and eventually she just got bored and let her cat do the scratching for her (Roy went to the hospital not because of the beatings, but because the cat gave him an allergic reaction.). The doctors did ask about the beatings and Roy said that he did them to himself. And of course, they believed that horrible lie...

A have some more, but I just can't seem to remember. Maybe I'll post them later.
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SurrealWorld-13 Featured By Owner Oct 30, 2013
Ouch. Those must have been bad experiences for the poor guy.
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VirunVIICrest Featured By Owner Dec 7, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm really digging your icon and signature.
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GingaFreak11 Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah. He's mental now. But he's beginning to recover!
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MyNameIsCourteney Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2014  Student General Artist
Sorry, I have been stalking the comments on this stamp. I saw this comment and I have to say I'm really glad Roy came back, even though I don't know him. XD
Best wishes to Roy~ :heart:
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GingaFreak11 Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2014  Student Writer
Thanks :-)
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MyNameIsCourteney Featured By Owner Oct 8, 2013  Student General Artist
I wish I could give Roy a hug. :c This made me cry, and it takes a lot for me to cry when it comes to movies and stories of abuse/death/sadness.
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GingaFreak11 Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2013  Student Writer
He could use a hug, but he went missing. And the police were too lazy to look anywhere for him and claimed he was dead (they have no proof)
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MyNameIsCourteney Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2013  Student General Artist
Oh... oh my God. :c

That pretty much explains 97% of police in this country. :L
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GingaFreak11 Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah :c
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ryro-fanfiction-x3 Featured By Owner Aug 30, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
abuse can always go both ways. Peple seem to forget that too often.
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moonrainbowxoxo Featured By Owner Aug 12, 2013
BRIDEZILLA!
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Felinespirit Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I also think abusive women themselves are less likely to realize what they're doing wrong because they're fed the idea that it is acceptable for them to abuse people (especially romantic partners). I think things like this are great, because they have potential to serve the dual purpose of stopping at least a few abusive scenarios. Then again, I only found this stamp because it was on the page of a woman who has been sexually and emotionally abusive, so I don't know.
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M0CKERY Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
isn't there statistics that prove that women are more abusive in relationships?
anonymous, 'non-official' statistics, though, as men rarely make any actual reports when they're abused. thanks to the society thinking only weak men get hit by women, and that man being abused by his wife is hilarious.

also that how people think women cant rape....
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Deus-Lux Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
It's actually thought to be about 50/50 from both genders, but men are less likely to get support or report it. Yeah, it's the same for rape as well.
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XNatoX Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2013
One of the reasons why I don't like society.
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Swimmingferret Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2013
Men on the whole are more inclined to physical abuse and killing their partners. Women typically "hen peck"
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Deus-Lux Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
It's about equal actually. Size has nothing to do with strength, one of my aunts is 5'8" and must be about a size 6 (UK sizes), if that, and she could throw around big, six' men. Also, they can use weapons and woman kill their husbands/boyfriends more often than men kill their wives/girlfriends, I remember reading somewhere.
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M0CKERY Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
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Women are more likely to be perpetrators of abuse as well as victims.

Majority of the studies I found show that women are more abusive.
And I did search for both sides.
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M0CKERY Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Nope.
Both are just as inclined. (Though, the newest studies show that in relationships women abuse more than men do.)
The 'roles' that men and women have give a picture of men more abusive as they're seen as strong leaders and so forth.
People just assume that women are more likely to be victims because men don't report abuse as easily, nor talk about it. They don't want to get attention for such things.
Lately, men have been more open about it, though, so more of them dare to admit being a victim of domestic violence/abuse. 
Though, even if men are now making actual reports, still ''twice as many male victims (28%) than female victims (13%) do not tell anyone about the domestic abuse they are suffering'' and ''only 10% of male victims contact the police compared to 29% of female victims.''

There's also difference on what men and women would call 'abuse'; because of the image of men being the strong ones and women being the weak ones, people tend to have different view on cases such as a man hitting a woman and a woman hitting a man. 
While a man hitting a woman would instantly make people angry, a woman hitting a man would be amusing to quite many.
A woman hitting a man isn't taken as seriously as a man hitting a woman is (media overall can prove this).

So nope, women don't just 'hen peck', and men aren't more inclined to abuse.
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Swimmingferret Featured By Owner Jul 25, 2013
...are you seriously saying women dole out the same level of physical harm? Women are more likely to be the victims, because they are. Women are just as likely to beat their partners to death like men? Please. :roll:

You do realize men deal a fuck load more damage when they strike a woman than vice versa?
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Go join the other world kingdom. you share both their beliefs and their stupidity.
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Pokelova Featured By Owner Oct 26, 2013
Studies have shown that domestic violence is gender symmetrical.
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M0CKERY Featured By Owner Jul 25, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I got my information from several studies etc, I can link them to you if I find them again.
The studies show that women are more abusive. I'm not saying, the professionals who wrote them are.

Anyway.
That doesn't depend on the gender. Men aren't automatically bigger and stronger than women are.
And there are same sex couples, too.
Not to mention that the damage a person can cause doesn't always depend on their size. 

 It's about 50/50 whether the murderer is a female or a male. Women also kill their children more often than men do.
In family murders, '' 55.5 percent of the victims were males and 44.5 percent females, and "female defendants were more likely than male defendants to have murdered a person of the opposite sex.''. www.uiowa.edu/~030116/158/arti...

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Marie-pc Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2013  Student Photographer
its true
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awesomeartninja Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2013  Student Interface Designer
if i knew how to post that animation of the guy clapping, i would post it
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Felinespirit Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:icon clap plz: without spaces.
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Endivie11 Featured By Owner May 27, 2013
Yeah, so many tend to forget it :(
I always get mad when I'm reading something along the lines of "Stop violence against women" because I always think: "Well...If a man becomes a victim of abuse it's not important, or what?" Better would be something like: "Stop all domestic abuse/violence (against all people)" and not something so sexist.
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TheMasterAura Featured By Owner Apr 24, 2013  Student General Artist
I'm a woman, but I hate when Women are such bitches like that is so unfair, and very over-rated all that female protection, I really am aware that the mayor of cases are of female abuse, but all the persons just act like that is the only thing that matter, seriously, that news on the radio that you told... just... woooow, not only that poor guy have to deal with that stupid bitch, but go arrested?
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RMXTrailMix Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2013
I stopped talking to a "friend" of mine after she told me she had slapped her handicap boyfriend, and after she admitted shaking the wheelchair bound guy in anger. Poor dude has MS; but she takes out her frustrations out on him...its no wonder the state took away two of her kids.
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awesomeartninja Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2013  Student Interface Designer
finally they took the kids away from a female abuser instead of automatically assuming it was them man
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RMXTrailMix Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2013
Agreed :nod:
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TheMasterAura Featured By Owner Apr 24, 2013  Student General Artist
OMG...... what a bitch and a w----..... I'm sorry for that, and with all the respect to you bit that friend of yours is horrible, treat like that to a guy in wheelchair? (sigh)... oh boy.....
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RMXTrailMix Featured By Owner Apr 24, 2013
She never learned to speak out, or to work through her emotions in an honest manner. I suspect she may have a form of autism (seeing how she has trouble expression emotions, an inability to express affection and a strong urge to sort items), though she claims to be diagnosed as being bipolar. I've never seen her form an honest loving bond with anybody, not even to the kids she gave birth to.
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TheMasterAura Featured By Owner Apr 24, 2013  Student General Artist
wooow....... oh Man.... that is so..... sad..... :(

poor kids......
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kronos-kirbi Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
It's true. But it should never happen from either side.
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Swimmingferret Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2013
Indeed.
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AliceSacco Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2012
I read somewhere that Kurt Cobain was a victim of domestic violence. The violent was, of course Courtney Love, and Kurt was scared by her.
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deideiblueeyez Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Even more reason to hate the bitch.
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Ortensia12 Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I know this because on some crime shows like Deadly Women and Scorned Love kills
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KatrinWinner Featured By Owner May 30, 2012  Professional General Artist
I do agree because girls can be very verbally abusive too I know I was one. And I feel bad how nasty I could be and also used to hit a guy 'for fun' and to feel 'more in control' and 'powerful' to the point where I was going too far and you could say we way we behaved it was like 'our genders were reversed' but obviously men are taught never to it a girl a d I used to use that against men all the time and shouldnt off. Though I do understand why women would feel the need or right to abuse a man because of female oppression, competitiveness and the idea of beng in control in what seems like a male dominated world. I had no idea what damage I could have been doing behaving like this I just thought 'man' therefore 'able to take my abuse' and 'deserving it' I was almost pushups hung him for why the way I was treated in the past as a victim of sexual abuse. My dad pointed out that it's not always men that sexually abuse women taking advantage of a boy underage can happen and it's overlooked and worse for the boy because it's a woman abusing a male! Rather than a man preying on a weaker young girl. I do see how serious base is but because of women's rights and feminism for equality this world still has a lot of growing up to do!
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